Parenting is a challenge. If becoming a parent is not easy then how can parenting is trouble-free. We all agree with this fact and always put a question and fight within. Are we giving enough time to our child is the query that every parent have. But are we really getting short of time in this busy and nuclear family crises? The answer to this question is mostly yes. Then how can we spend quality time with our child?

It’s always good for the parents to give as much time as possible to the children. In fact they need special attention and care. A new term can be used for this “Special Time”.

Special Time with Your Child.

Special Time is one-on-one time-one parent and one child. Family togetherness is very important, but don’t ever sacrifice your time alone with each child. Here, I mean (for parents who has more than one child). To effectively teach discipline, you need to establish that special rapport. Besides, most parents find that tensions dissipate, boundaries fall, and troubles fly away-at least until special time is over.

Special time is:

• Best if it’s regular.

• Fun when it’s spontaneous.

• Dangerous when it always involves food treats.

• Not special time when it involves errands, “have-tos,” or make-work.

Special time is an opportunity to hang out, or do special activities with your child. Special time pays off-in closeness, in rapport, in stress reduction. It’s a mini vacation. It needs to be special. Don’t confuse special time with the casual conversations you have while you’re folding laundry. Special time is supposed to be fun. No chores allowed.

Special Time Ideas:

Stumped? Let these ideas generate ones of your own:

• A monthly downtown lunch date complete with fountain Cokes at the old drugstore.

• A trip to somewhere you’ve never been (an aviation museum at the airport, the race track, a tour of the city sewer system, a working milk farm) Good idea.

• A midnight pizza run!

• The movies, with a slow stroll afterwards to chat about it. Rushing there and back (with the focus on the movie in the middle) doesn’t fill the bill, Bill.

• Sign up for a dance class together. A science class? An Italian class? Make sure the class meets a discussion-length drive away.

• Turn on the sprinkler, and take turns getting soaked.

• Take the A train. Take a ferry ride. Ride the metro to the end of the line and back.

• Go horseback riding. Take a hike (take your child).

• Surf (no, not the Net, the ocean!).

Be spontaneous. One day you’ll look at little one and know that he/she needs special time, and needs it now. Call in sick, cancel the appointments, turn off the phone ringer, get altered in night dress and climb into your bed with hot chocolate. He/she will soon be spilling her guts and soon you’ll both feel much better.

If you know your kids better than parenting is not just a challenge it’s a process of educating a small one to his/her adulthood and learning. Enjoy the process. Don’t ever fight with the faults of your child, instead love and encourage their achievements and good qualities. By giving “Special Time” you will be benefited and it makes you your child’s favorite-mommy or daddy.